summer

summer

perryshall:

RIP Tommy Ramone. Thanks for changing my life.

perryshall:

RIP Tommy Ramone. Thanks for changing my life.

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gwengold:

The Portrait - René Magritte, 1935

gwengold:

The Portrait - René Magritte, 1935

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superblackmarket:

Richard Hell and Elvis Costello photographed by Roberta Bayley, 1978

superblackmarket:

Richard Hell and Elvis Costello photographed by Roberta Bayley, 1978

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You must remember, it isn’t about “All men are menaces to women,” it’s about “All women have been menaced by men.” — The best ever response to the ‘not all men!’ crusade. If it’s not about you, stop making it about you. (via dearfern)

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thegreenwolf:

"Not all men are like that."

That’s fine. What are you doing about the ones that are?

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aboutarcticmonkeys:

if you’re against feminism i’m against you

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silversarcasm:

women have died and all you have to say is not all men

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monicalewinsky1996:

can we stop ignoring the fact that misogyny is fucking deadly.

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And before you call Rodger “crazy”: it is not actually “crazy” to believe stuff that’s been shoved down your throat from birth.

I wish it were. It’d be nice if humans reasoned rationally by default, that if you grow up with people telling you things that don’t make sense, like religion or that sex is dirty or that women owe you anything at all, you’d just go, “Well, that makes no sense!” and refuse to ever believe it.

But we didn’t evolve that way, at least not yet. Unless we work very hard at it, we’ll inevitably believe what we’re taught so incessantly, as sexism is taught to all of us. Yet we are all capable of rational thought if we work at it, which is why I hold Rodger and all other men who believe in their conditioning and subject women to violence fully accountable for their actions.

A very good therapist could have helped Rodger with this process. Maybe. But when mass shootings happen and everyone bemoans the fact that the shooter didn’t go to (or wasn’t helped by) therapy, they never seem to ask themselves what this therapy would entail. You don’t go to therapy or go on medication and suddenly become happy. What you have to do is unlearn the maladaptive and harmful ways in which you’ve learned (or been taught to) think. For someone like me, this means learning not to be so afraid and not to treat every minor setback as the end of the world. In Rodger’s case, this might’ve meant learning how to be okay with not having sex with women for a while, learning the social skills to eventually find and keep a partner, and, most importantly, learning that women do not owe him a single damn thing. With that realization might’ve come freedom.

In other words, the way to help Rodger would have been to help him unlearn what he never should have learned in the first place. And there’s no guarantee that even the best of therapists could succeed at this; everyone in the field knows that sometimes clients are just beyond help (at least by a given therapist) and that it’s tragic and sad and don’t we wish we could’ve caught them earlier?

What if our culture had never taught Rodger these horrible beliefs?

What if our culture didn’t still treat women as possessions?

What if our culture didn’t emphasize hypermasculinity and getting laid at all costs?
Masculinity, Violence, and Bandaid Solutions (Brute Reason)

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